Accepting things as they are is critical if peace is something you desire. Self-actualization is the process of realizing one’s full potential and achieving personal growth. It is a journey that requires accepting all parts of ourselves. Even the parts of us we don’t feel particularly proud of. (And trust me I can write a short book about these). I know for me, accepting the current moment exactly is a constant work in progress. Eckhart Tolle says to “accept the as-isness of this moment, or make a change, anything else is insanity.” This is the quote that changed my life and led me to leave a toxic relationship and step into my true self. The journey to acceptance of all things in one’s life and making the necessary course corrections to self-actualization can be challenging, but it is worth it. In this blog, we will discuss 5 ways to increase acceptance and why it matters to help you live a life of purpose leading to the goal of self-actualization. Acceptance begins within but also broadens into the acceptance that we cannot change others, including our parents, children, or spouses.
1. Practice self-compassion
Self-compassion is the act of being kind and understanding to oneself. It involves treating yourself with the same kindness, concern, and support that you would offer to a good friend. Practicing self-compassion involves acknowledging your imperfections and embracing them. This can help you to accept yourself and increase your self-esteem. Eckhart Tolle said, “The more you know yourself, the more clarity there is. Self-knowledge has no end.”
2. Embrace vulnerability
Vulnerability is the courage to show up and be seen when you have no control over the outcome. It involves taking risks and being open to the possibility of failure. Brene Brown, an American author, once said, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Embracing vulnerability can help you to be more authentic and connect with others on a deeper level.
3. Practice forgiveness
Forgiveness is the act of letting go of resentment and anger towards oneself or others. It can be difficult to forgive, but it is essential for personal growth. Forgiveness can help you to release negative emotions and move forward. Eckhart Tolle once said, “Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.”
4. Build meaningful relationships
Building meaningful relationships is essential for personal growth. It involves connecting with others on a deeper level and being open to new experiences. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can help you to increase self-awareness and gain a new perspective. Brene Brown once said, “Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.”
5. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness is the act of being present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings. It involves living in the moment and accepting things as they are. Practicing mindfulness can help you to increase self-awareness and reduce stress. Eckhart Tolle once said, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.”
In conclusion, increasing acceptance is essential for finding inner peace, joy, improved relationships and ultimately self-actualization. Practicing self-compassion, embracing vulnerability, practicing forgiveness, building meaningful relationships, and practicing mindfulness can help you to increase acceptance and realize your full potential. As Brene Brown said, “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” When we can accept ourselves, we can understand others better and accept them with all of their human flaws.”